“Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
What is it that you really fear? You need to be honest with yourself. I believe you want to start a year without fear, think about it for a minute. According to Miriam Webster dictionary fear is ‘an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger’.
Fear is a gap, a missing piece of information. There’s a certain knowledge you need to have in order to get rid of your fears. You need this information to replace your fear with a desire. Fear is the evidence of ignorance. Herman Melville once said “Ignorance is the parent of fear.”
A desire is the opposite of fear, it is the best use of your emotions and will . Why do we often fear the things we want rather than desiring them and go after them?
Take this example, When someone gives you a lift, but uses a route that you know nothing about, you will begin to fear. but if this person informs you about this new route and that you’ll arrive to your destiny. you’ll relax and continue to wait for your desired destination.
Fear can be replaced by a desire through knowledge.
“To overcome fear, here’s all you have to do: realize the fear is there, and do the action you fear anyway.”
— Peter McWilliams
I’m sure you do want a desire than fear because fear makes you anxious, sad and depressed but a desire makes you feel happy, positive and optimistic.
Do you fear the future? fill yourself with information or knowledge about the future and start to invest in the future you want. When you begin to invest in that future, you will no longer fear, because you already know what to expect. and therefore you’ll be desiring to be there already.
some people desire things which they have no plan to go for them. That’s called dreaming. Investing in your future could be doing savings ,mybe you wanna purchase a house or start a business, it could be reading books , about raising kids, leading a team, etc.
In other words, this is preparation. In order to realise your desires you must have an action plan.
Mybe you’re in college and fear wether you’ll be employed or not! while you’re still in college ,begin to invest in your employability skills. Find out what employers need, volunteer, learn time management, and more regarding employment.
It could be you’re facing a challenge. And it has created alot of fear and anxiety within you. Modesta Mahiga-Mbughuni said ‘there is always a way, you just need a strategy ‘ . Don’t give up now. Seek advise, take time to find the solution for your challenge, for there’s always one.
Remember life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. May your choices reflect your courage and not your fears.
Happy New Year.